Wednesday 11 December 2013

Planning for christmas this year

This year is different from the past years. We've decided to sacrifice Christmas in order to not get stressed out about how it never works the way we plan it. In the previous few years we've spent countless agonising hours trying to plan it to get it to work the way we want. Each time, it didn't work the way we want and we spent hours and hours venting after a Christmas that didn't meet our expectations.

I've changed, this year, we're doing "whatever" and have decided to sacrifice Christmas and not worry so much when it doesn't go to plan, because we know it wont. We've decided to go to my parents place (a couple of hours driving) and we offered the option of going out to lunch or staying home. They've chosen to stay home, because Mum is increasingly uncomfortable with "making a mess of herself" in public. So, we'll take some prawns, Dad will whack on a bit of roast meat and see what happens.

The plan is, that we, for the first time since my children were born (7 christmas'), will have Christmas morning home alone as the nuclear family, to open the presents, have breakfast, then drive to my parents, have lunch, then leave when we've had enough. It's becoming clear that we cause stress and anxiety when we stay at their house, so we will just leave, so they can relax after lunch without the stress of visitors staying.

If lunch is a disaster, it's ok, we have prawns, and that will do. Then on the way home, if it's hot, we'll go to the beach and have a swim. We will be going away for a week after Christmas this year, so we'll celebrate then if Christmas doesn't work out.

Fingers crossed, we can execute our goal of not stressing out about a disastrous Christmas.